Why I Stopped Being Nice
What I learned to do instead
6 min readJul 12, 2021
Most of us long to be good partners to others. But what does it mean to be good to others in a relationship? In my twenties, I thought it meant being polite, overriding my own needs or feelings to make life easier for the other person. I thought I was building strong relationships. Except that I felt like a phony, I felt awkward. For me being nice meant being saccharine…
